Too Shy
June 3rd, 2008, 11:19 am · 2 Comments · posted by Dreamer
I’m too shy. What should I do?
It’s OK to be shy…but sometimes you have to go for what you want.If you’re shy about talking to someone you like, well trust me we’ve all been there. But if you never get to talking to that person well then you’ll never know how you really feel about that person or how that person feels about you.Just be natural. You know small inoffensive chat. Make the other person feel comfortable not like they have to put up a guard because you’re acting all rico suave. Be yourself. It may sound cliche but it’s just the best approach. You don’t want to pretend to be someone you’re because if you do, then you’re already off to a bad start.The truth will eventually come out.Don’t pressure yourself into thinking that you’re shy and that you have to do something extraordinary to talk to someone or to stand out.You never know, that person could be looking for a shy guy like you.- MILA
I can totally relate to you! As a girl, I think sometimes it’s easier to go out and meet people because most of the time we let men approach us. Many times, I’ll notice someone when I’m out and about, and I feel like we’ve made eye contact and there are vibes there, but the guy doesn’t ever approach me and I don’t understand it. Make a move, you never know if the person you’ve had your eye on feels the same way. And use your shy personality to your advantage - lots of people like quiet, confident men as opposed to obnoxious, loud men. Be proud of who you are.
June 3rd, 2008 at 11:38 am
I used to be extremely shy, but in my case it was lack of self-confidence which caused it. After doing things like working out, studying more, and improving myself I was able to walk up to girls comfortably and just start a friendly conversation. Some were attracted to me, others werent but it really helped me out.
July 9th, 2008 at 4:25 pm
Truthfully, we all gotta crash and burn before we can take off with the ladies. I know I have. You’re gonna learn which type of personality you like in a woman and what type you don’t like.
To know that a woman is interested in you you gotta look at the signs. Messing with the hair. Crossing her legs towards you, rather than away from you. Leaning or pointing her attention towards you are sure signs in a social setting…like a party,kickback,club,etc.
Now with that said. If she’s with friends, acknowledge them, but then point your attention back to her. This shows you’re interested in not just her, but the people that are important in her life.
Dress to impress…to a point. Yea, dress casual, but comfortable for you and your personality. Remember be yourself.
When you talk to woman, always get to the point of what you’re trying to say. You’ll seem more interesting because you don’t B.S. or tell them what they want to hear. Honesty is the best policy.
That’s it for now. Let me know how it goes.