My best friend and I hang out alot but we have a problem. She makes less money than I do and always feels she can’t afford to go out. She insists that we rent movies and stay home every weekend. We’re never going to meet guys doing this. We could be going to places that don’t cost much money…like cafes or Starbucks…but she doesn’t want to. Am I being selfish and inconsiderate? We’re both in our late 20’s and it would be nice to meet some guys.
Maybe your friend can’t afford to go out, but that doesn’t mean you should stop hanging out with her. Maybe you can still see her, and hang out with her on movie nights, and then go out with another group of friends who can afford to go out. You shoudln’t ditch your friend, but you also shouldn’t hinder what you want to do because she can’t afford to go out.
Sounds like she’s using lack of money as an excuse not to go out. Maybe she doesn’t want to meet guys, is too shy, or something else. Next time you suggest an inexpensive or free place and she says no, you can ask very nicely and in the most non-confrontational way you can manage, ‘It really doesn’t cost that much. Is there some other reason you don’t want to go out?”
Or you could just ditch her at home and find some other people to go out with. Depends on how good of friends you are.
money shouldnt matter if they really love you. you should be able to hang out and do anything …