Eric and I have been dating for 4 months. We’ve hung out together a lot, always having a great time. We text each other often throughout the day, since both of our employers frown on personal phone calls. We spent many evenings together at the beach, movies, clubs and friends’ places. We are physically and socially very attracted to each other.
Today, after having lunch we engaged in a long hot passionate kiss. Neither one of us wanted to go back to work but we had to.
ONE HOUR LATER he text me saying it’s all over. I sent a text and called him right away but he did not answer. By this evening I’ve sent him several texts, emails and have left messages on his phone. I’ve gone by his place but he’s not there.
I don’t understand. At lunch he showed no signs of breaking up. Out of nowhere he dumps me via a TEXT MESSAGE! I don’t know what to do. If he wanted to break up, why was he so affectionate at lunch? Why couldn’t he be a man and tell me in person? Or at least call me… but text me. Texting…it’s a mean, heartless, cowardly way of splitting up. - Jessica
Some lovers are turning to text message to say it’s over. While hiding behind technology might appear a cowardly way of splitting up, some guys simply drop all communication with their lovers without notice.
Most of us send emails and texts everyday, so it comes as no surprise they are now being used to ditch someone — however distasteful it may be. Obviously, this guy doesn’t deserve you…so go out and find someone new.
I know the feeling. I was in a long relationship for 8 yrs and engaged for 3 of those 8 yrs. He was sent to Japan and I patiently waited for him. We had had a rocky couple of years but before he left he assured me that we were okay and that we would work out any communication issues. I felt relieved, but then a month later he sends me message on myspace to end our 8yr relationship! A myspace message! Now that was a coward… and I told him so in my reply. I sent him one response and that was the end of it. I was not about to waste another second on someone who could throw away such a long relationship through a simple message! My advise to you is to let it go and find someone new. He obviously isn’t worth your time. It’s been a month since he broke it off and I am enjoying the single life and you should too.
I agree with the comment above…YOU be the bigger person. Sometimes things are beyond our control. Guys can be cowards, I have a story on that and so does every other woman. I dated a guy for 6 months and he took me to 2 weddings within a 3 month period. I drove him to the second wedding where we dance and laughed all night. I could not reach him the next day. He finally called me the next evening and asked me to dinner. Before we even went inside he sat me down on a bench and ended it. I was not crushed b/c I never saw myself marrying him. I even felt sorry for him, he seemed so torn-up. I left half smiling thinking of myself as a hottie he wanted to show-off to his friends at weddings…a compliment in a way.
So, ask yourself if you saw a long-term future with this guy. I sincerely hope not if this is how he ends relationships. Believe me, you will find somebody else who is worthy of you and kisses just as hot or hotter