I just found out that my boyfriend’s ex-wife is 3 months pregnant and he’s the father. He says his ex came on to him one weekend when he was picking up his son, that one thing lead to another and now she’s pregnant. I’m hurt and angry. Hector and I (both in our late 20’s) have been dating for over a year and we plan on getting married at the end of this year. I’m divorced with 3 kids. He says he loves me and that he has no feelings for his ex. That he made a big mistake, regrets what happened and wants to marry me. His ex says it was all her fault. My gf says I should leave him, that he’s broken my heart and I can’t trust him anymore. I love him and want to be with him, but I don’t know if I can forgive him. I don’t know what to do.
Trust and forgiveness are 2 really big things to consider. He says he made a mistake and she says it’s all her fault. Whatever the truth is…they are both adults and they knew what the consequences could be.
Looking ahead…there’s a new baby coming. If you marry him, the baby will be part of you and your children’s lives every day. Will you be able to accept and love this baby as part of your family? How will your children react? Will he be faithful to you after you’re married? Are you prepared to deal with other issues surrounding 2nd marriages?
