I’ve been dating James for almost one year. Our love, faith and trust is deep and sincere. We’re not just lovers, we are best friends.
For over a month, James has been talking about marriage, how many kids I want, and other things. One day I see us as a married couple with children but I wonder sometimes if we’re rushing into things.
I’m in my mid-20’s and have always respected advice from my Mom. She loves James but tells me that I should date him for 2 years before marrying him. I have friends that married after knowing their spouse for only weeks and months. None of them waited 2+ years. More than half of them have marital problems or are now divorced.
When I marry I want to have a life-long relationship. My mom divorced my dad after 15 years of marriage. They dated less than 1 year.
James feels that when people know they have a long-lasting relationship it shouldn’t matter how long you date. That lasting relationship can be built in days, some in weeks and others take years.
We’re not talking about getting married in the next several months, but I wonder how long we should date before we become engaged.
I think you have waited long enough. Marriage is unpredictable. (Understatement of the Century) Just remember to keep your finances in check, maintain close family/friend ties, and compromise with your husband on problematic matters. Hopefully it works out for the two of you.