My boyfriend and I have been living together for a year, dating for 3 years. We both are divorced with children, have full time jobs and make good money. Problem is he’s always broke! He’s financially dependent on me, I pay all the bills, food, gas, etc. I own my own home so we don’t rent. Since I have a newer car, we always use mine.
Most of his money goes to his children. He pays child support like all divorced dads should do. Any time his ex calls she asks for more money and he always gives in to her. So he’s always broke or has little money to help pay our bills. I want to spend and do more with my kids, but my money is tight.
He’s a great boyfriend in every other way and I love him very much. But, I’m getting tired of paying for everything. By the time I pay all the bills, I’m basically broke each month.
Every time I talk to him about it he gets defensive, says he feels bad but he has to take care of his kids. I suggested he get a second job but he says he can’t because it would take time away from his kids.
I’m feeling desperate and frustrated. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? He’s the sweetest and most loving boyfriend. But fair is fair. My friends and family say I should kick his butt out. I want to marry him one day but I wonder if he will assume and share financial responsibilites. Is love worth all the financial problems?
