My husband spends more time on Facebook and Twitter than with me. We both have full-time jobs, working 9-10 hours a day. I’m in retail and he’s a physical therapist. We cook and have dinner almost every night. We never have the TV on; there’s usually not much that we really want to watch.
For the next couple of hours my husband is on Facebook and Twitter. He’s preoccupied with his “friends” and constantly tweeting. I’m also on social networks but my life does not revolve around them. I rarely get on when my husband is around. I’d rather spend the time with him.
At first I didn’t mind it; I could get things done in the evening instead of spending Saturdays cleaning the house. Our time together is short and precious; and his social media habits make for a lonely wife. When I told him this diversion is impacting our marriage he disagreed.
We have revisited the conversation of how much is too much or when is the right and wrong time to be on FB or Twitter. Finally my husband agreed that we should have weekly date nights without any technological devices.
Two months ago we went out to a nice restaurant, had some wine and a great dinner. Everything was going great. Then the sounds began; the ringing, the beeping and the vibrating.
He responded to the tweets and posted FB comments. I was so upset that he broke his promise! I left the restaurant while he was tweeting. Thirty minutes later he’s called me to ask where I was and if I am okay in the “bathroom.” Thirty minutes! I had taken a taxi home.
That was been the last time my husband has taken his iPhone or iPad on our “date nights”. He realizes how much time he ‘wastes’ online. Yes he still goes on the social networks but we also have quality time together every night. Our relationship is growing stronger every day. – Monica, McAllen