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August 7th, 2008, 5:56 am by Dreamer
 My best friend and I hang out alot but we have a problem. She makes less money than I do and always feels she can’t afford to go out. She insists that we rent movies and stay home every weekend. We’re never going to meet guys doing this. We could be going to places that don’t cost much money…like cafes or Starbucks…but she doesn’t want to. Am I being selfish and inconsiderate? We’re both in our late 20’s and it would be nice to meet some guys.
 Maybe your friend can’t afford to go out, but that doesn’t mean you should stop hanging out with her. Maybe you can still see her, and hang out with her on movie nights, and then go out with another group of friends who can afford to go out. You shoudln’t ditch your friend, but you also shouldn’t hinder what you want to do because she can’t afford to go out.
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August 7th, 2008, 5:52 am by Dreamer
 Everytime my boyfriend moves he breaks upwith me.When he went to college and I was in high school, he ended the relationship. We resumed our relationship when I attended the same college. He has now been accepted into a prestigious medical school and is moving out of state. I want to move with him but he said no and broke up with me again. I am devastated. We dated for more than 4 years…and I really love him. Was this a relationship of convenience for him or what? What should I do?
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August 7th, 2008, 5:47 am by Dreamer
 I gave my ex a big engagement ring. One month before the wedding she called it off. Would it be OK if I ask for the ring…it was very expensive and since it has no meaning to her anymore…why not?
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July 14th, 2008, 2:04 pm by Dreamer
 Why are women not crazy about short guys? I have a lot to offer a fine lady… good income, a home, sporty car and I love to cook romantic dinners. So what gives?
 Short guys are hot too! One of my friends is usually attracted to tall guys, but they all seem to be jerks. She’s now dating a shorter guy and he’s awesome and treats her like a queen. So I guess my theory about that is don’t be so concerned about height, be concerned with the way he treats you. Some say a man’s greatness is measured from his head to the sky not from his head to the ground, and if so, short guys win this one.
Personally, I don’t automatically single out tall guys in a crowd or turn down short guys - height isn’t really a determining factor for me in what I find attractive in a guy. However, I know there are people out there shallow enough to turn down a guy based on his height. Every different person has different preferences as to what they find attractive in the opposite sex. And for every girl out there who may say, “He’s too short,” - I think there are just as many, if not more, women out there who would not even consider your height. I think any mature woman with a good head on her shoulders would look at a guy for what he has to offer - and you said you have a lot to offer a woman. It takes time to meet someone special. Don’t get discouraged. - TARA
Posted in: Date • Dating • Friends • Question • help • short guys • women | 3 Comments »
July 10th, 2008, 6:01 am by Dreamer
What makes a man lose interest in a women? I dated Jon for one year, went to all of his family events and all four of his friends weddings. I thought everything was going well…but after the last wedding he broke up with me saying he lost interest in me. How can a man lose interest without me seeing any signs? Help…
I think you need to focus on moving on instead of why things went wrong. Dwelling on the past won’t make you feel better. Just know that he wasn’t the one for you - and whatever his reason was - I’m sure he’s missing out on a great girl. Know your worth and find someone else who will know your worth, too. - TARA
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June 9th, 2008, 5:04 pm by Dreamer
I’m a single male and I recently went to a party that one of my friends had. Of course that means talking to friends, having a good time and meeting new people. One of my friends introduced me to a friend she brought over to hangout. I think she is very attractive, smart and nice person. Although we chatted little during the party, I would like to meet her again and get to know her a little more and possibly go out to dinner or just hangout. I would like to step out of my shell and actually take a chance. How do I do this? What if she lives in a different town? Can something like myspace work, since we did meet in person?
I don’t want to knock online communication, that does work for some people. Personally, I know I’d rather hang out with someone in person and get to know them in person. How far away does this girl live? If it’s close enough for a drive on the weekend, maybe you two can have dinner on a Saturday or Sunday or whenever you’re both off work. Maybe you can use MySpace as a way to break the ice, then move toward chatting on the phone, then eventually over dinner. Feel it out and see if you want to pursue a relationship with her once the communication increases. - TARA
Posted in: Date • Friends • Long Distance • New • Question • Uncategorized | 2 Comments »
June 3rd, 2008, 11:19 am by Dreamer
I’m too shy. What should I do?
It’s OK to be shy…but sometimes you have to go for what you want.If you’re shy about talking to someone you like, well trust me we’ve all been there. But if you never get to talking to that person well then you’ll never know how you really feel about that person or how that person feels about you.Just be natural. You know small inoffensive chat. Make the other person feel comfortable not like they have to put up a guard because you’re acting all rico suave. Be yourself. It may sound cliche but it’s just the best approach. You don’t want to pretend to be someone you’re because if you do, then you’re already off to a bad start.The truth will eventually come out.Don’t pressure yourself into thinking that you’re shy and that you have to do something extraordinary to talk to someone or to stand out.You never know, that person could be looking for a shy guy like you.- MILA
I can totally relate to you! As a girl, I think sometimes it’s easier to go out and meet people because most of the time we let men approach us. Many times, I’ll notice someone when I’m out and about, and I feel like we’ve made eye contact and there are vibes there, but the guy doesn’t ever approach me and I don’t understand it. Make a move, you never know if the person you’ve had your eye on feels the same way. And use your shy personality to your advantage - lots of people like quiet, confident men as opposed to obnoxious, loud men. Be proud of who you are.
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May 27th, 2008, 3:47 pm by Dreamer
What happens when you begin to have feelings for a guy/girl that is your friend and you dont want to ruin your friendship? You cant just ignore them every time they meet a guy/girl and they talk about them. If you do ignore them they might think your rude when in reality your just hurt because you get a small jealous feeling. Do you let it go and try to be a friend to them? Or do you tell them your feelings and risk the friendship?
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April 23rd, 2008, 9:06 pm by Dreamer
I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half and every time I bring up a job offer or a possible new job she gets mad at me and tells me that we should break up. We have talked about moving, but she wants to stay in the town she lives in for the rest of her life. I’m not from the same town and I really don’t like living in the town. The only thing that brought me here was school. I have plans of travelling and exploring new grounds and I would love her to be next to me. I really care about her but I’m still young and want to explore what God put in this world.
If your girlfriend is ready to bail out of your relationship at the mere thought of a better job opportunity for you, she may not be in it for the long run. You need to do what’s best for you. If you stick around for her and give up on your future and your dreams, later on she may find another reason to leave you. Also, if she isn’t supportive of your dreams or willing to compromise, maybe you’re better off without her. There are plenty of fish in the sea and more women to date in other cities. - TARA
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April 23rd, 2008, 7:21 pm by Dreamer
I’m a 24-year-old woman with no children, working in my second job out of college. I’m trying to focus on my career, and have been looking for a new, better paying job in a bigger city. I hope to move soon. Should I not date anyone during my last few months here? I don’t want to get emotionally attached to anyone and don’t want to hurt anyone, but I don’t want to stay cooped up at home every night. I see nothing wrong with making new friends. Would it be pointless or selfish of me to go out on dates?? Its not selfish to make new friends and you dont have to sit at home all the time. You can have a girls or boys night out and have fun meeting people. Just remember that you are leaving a few months. Its ok to hangout with the ones you meet, just dont pass the imaginary line. If you began to have feelings for that person then you need to back off. That means stop hanging out and possible ignore the person. Remember your feelings come first and its not selfish. Its normal because its your life. Now go out and have fun. Good luck with your new life where ever you end up. - DREAMER
As long as you are honest from the get-go about your intentions to move soon with your new friends, it’s not bad to meet and hang out with new people. Honesty is always best, and if you feel that you can emotionally handle spending time with someone without getting too attached or getting hurt when you move, and that person expresses the same, then socialize all you want. - TARA
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