Recently I’ve had an intuition that my boyfriend had been talking with another woman. Lo and behold, I discovered a woman’s intuition is never wrong. Text message inbox showed he had a conversation with a girl whom he had previously kissed while he was involved in another relationship. He also spoke with her for about 10 minutes. Given it was around the Thanksgiving holiday and it could have been an innocent “Happy Thanksgiving” conversation. However the clincher is when I casually asked if he had spoken with this girl, he denied it. At this time he did not know that I already knew he HAD spoken with her and had even deleted the text message. My concern is if the conversation is so innocent, why did he feel the need to lie?

Obviously there are trust issues and trust is one of the base components of the relationship. Why do you have a need to sneak around to find information? The only way you will ever truly trust him is develop deeper and honest communication.  You’re allowing your mind to run wild with basically little or no information. As you wrote, it could have been merely a “Happy Thanksgiving.”

He may have denied it because he would rather not communicate about sensitive things, especially things that might upset you. Trust issues can tear you apart and weaken your love, or bring you closer together and strengthen your true love. It’s up to you how you deal with them.