Archive for the 'confused' Category
December 25th, 2008, 8:18 pm by Tara
 My girlfriend and I mutually decided to split last week. I looked at her myspace today and she posted our split! It’s like…News Flash: I’m single again! I can’t believe she did this. Blogging our breakup…what is she trying to prove? - Hector, Weslaco, Texas
 Hector, you write that the split was mutual so I don’t understand why you appear upset about the posting. Maybe your ex-girlfriend feels that posting the split is better than having to explain to everyone what happened and why. Maybe she’s ready to move on and posting the split is her way of saying she’s ready to meet someone new. Whatever the reason, don’t delve on it. The relationship is over and you too are single again. Go out, meet new people and have fun!
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December 16th, 2008, 10:19 am by Tara
I’ve been dating this girl but now I want to break up cause I think she’s psycho. Should I break up with her now or wait till after the holidays? I don’t want to ruin her Christmas but I don’t want to be with her anymore. What should I do?
 Breaking up during the holidays can be difficult and somewhat heartless. Why go through the holiday pretending you care and leading her on? No need to wait…do it now. The sooner you break up the sooner you’ll be happier.
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December 10th, 2008, 8:23 pm by Tara
 Recently I’ve had an intuition that my boyfriend had been talking with another woman. Lo and behold, I discovered a woman’s intuition is never wrong. Text message inbox showed he had a conversation with a girl whom he had previously kissed while he was involved in another relationship. He also spoke with her for about 10 minutes. Given it was around the Thanksgiving holiday and it could have been an innocent “Happy Thanksgiving” conversation. However the clincher is when I casually asked if he had spoken with this girl, he denied it. At this time he did not know that I already knew he HAD spoken with her and had even deleted the text message. My concern is if the conversation is so innocent, why did he feel the need to lie?
Obviously there are trust issues and trust is one of the base components of the relationship. Why do you have a need to sneak around to find information? The only way you will ever truly trust him is develop deeper and honest communication. You’re allowing your mind to run wild with basically little or no information. As you wrote, it could have been merely a “Happy Thanksgiving.”
He may have denied it because he would rather not communicate about sensitive things, especially things that might upset you. Trust issues can tear you apart and weaken your love, or bring you closer together and strengthen your true love. It’s up to you how you deal with them.
Posted in: Affection • Ex girlfriend • Liar • Other woman • Trust • confused | Post a Comment »
December 9th, 2008, 2:36 pm by Tara
 When you text your boyfriend ‘I Love You,” and he text back “Cool,” how are you suppose to feel? Does this mean I’m being too clingy or does this mean that he does not show affection enough?
 Clingy no. It’s a loving move on your part. Some guys have a hard time expressing their love to their lady. Maybe your guy thinks it’s too mushy for him to respond with a like message. Maybe he had friends or co-workers around him. He may not be the type of person that displays affection in public. Maybe he didn’t want to be teased or ridiculed by his friends. Does he show affection in other ways? If so, move on…don’t sweat the small stuff.
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November 26th, 2008, 10:51 pm by Tara
My girlfriend and I have been arguing all week about where we will spend Thanksgiving. My mother believes that we should spend holidays with my family. My girlfriend would rather spend holidays with her family. This really creates a big problem in our relationship. What do most couples do? - Brad
Brad you don’t mention where the families live. Assuming they live in the same town, make a point to visit both families on Thanksgiving Day. Both mothers need to be less selfish and more understanding. If one family lives away, then most couples rotate holidays. For instance, this Thanksgiving will be with your family, Christmas with hers. Then the following year it reverses to Thanksgiving with her family and Christmas with yours. This issue becomes more compounded when you marry and when you have children. If you plan to marry this lady, you may want to settle this issue now…before it becomes a much bigger problem later.
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November 22nd, 2008, 6:03 pm by Tara
My friend and I were at a local club catching up on everything over a glass of wine. This handsome guy came to our table. He was so HOT. We engaged in a brief but flirtatious conversation and exchanged numbers. It’s been over one week and he hasn’t even called. I want to call him but I’m afraid to be rejected. I searched myspace and facebook…but no luck. He’s all I think about! What should I do? — Liz, still waiting in McAllen
Liz, I think you should call or text him. What have you got to lose? Maybe he’s lost your number. Maybe he’s not really interested. Better to know how he feels now than waiting precious time hoping he will call you. Do it today!
Love Bytes readers…Should Liz call him or just chalk it up to a night at the club and then move on? What would you do?
Posted in: Answer • Dating • Friends • Question • confused • help • what to do | 2 Comments »
November 19th, 2008, 7:11 pm by Tara
 It’s ackward but I bet we’ve all been there. Who should pay the check when you go out with a friend? Should we split the total bill or each pay separately? Sometimes it’s really ackward…especially when it’s a guy friend. What do you do?
Posted in: Friends • confused • help • money • what to do | 2 Comments »
November 19th, 2008, 7:02 pm by Tara
 Fed up writes that she always seems to get stuck in the “friend” mode. She has no problem meeting guys, talking to guys or becoming the guy’s best friend. But who wants that all the time. She just met a super cute and nice guy and is having trouble getting past the “friend” thing. They’ve gone out several times but nothing happens. Talk about frustration…always the friend and never the good stuff. What should she do? How do you get out of the “friend” mode?
Posted in: Dating • Friends • confused • what to do | 3 Comments »
August 19th, 2008, 6:32 pm by Tara
 I have a guy friend who recently started a new relationship with a girl he knows. I met her through him, and we always hang out together as a group. I’ve known him longer, and I’m also close friends with his family. Recently, she told me that they got into a bad argument, and she’s not sure if he’s going to forgive her. He also mentioned to me that they were having some problems. I have a feeling that she’s talking to her ex-boyfriend again, but I’m not sure if I should tell him or not. What if I’m wrong, and what if he believes her over me and I loose two friends…..She mentioned to me that her ex has been calling, and I’m 99 percent sure that they’ve talked. She also told me that my friend would be very upset at her if he knew. I don’t know what to do! I just want to stay out of it, but I don’t want my guy friend to get hurt, either.
Posted in: Friends • confused • help • what to do | 5 Comments »
August 7th, 2008, 5:52 am by Dreamer
 Everytime my boyfriend moves he breaks upwith me.When he went to college and I was in high school, he ended the relationship. We resumed our relationship when I attended the same college. He has now been accepted into a prestigious medical school and is moving out of state. I want to move with him but he said no and broke up with me again. I am devastated. We dated for more than 4 years…and I really love him. Was this a relationship of convenience for him or what? What should I do?
Posted in: Dating • Long Distance • Question • confused • what to do | 3 Comments »
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