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How long should I wait?

May 13th, 2009, 8:22 pm by Tara

kitten2 I’ve been dating James for almost one year. Our love, faith and trust is deep and sincere. We’re not just lovers, we are best friends.

For over a month, James has been talking about marriage, how many kids I want, and other things. One day I see us as a married couple with children but I wonder sometimes if we’re rushing into things.

I’m in my mid-20’s and have always respected advice from my Mom. She loves James but tells me that I should date him for 2 years before marrying him. I have friends that married after knowing their spouse for only weeks and months. None of them waited 2+ years. More than half of them have marital problems or are now divorced.

When I marry I want to have a life-long relationship. My mom divorced my dad after 15 years of marriage. They dated less than 1 year.

James feels that when people know they have a long-lasting relationship it shouldn’t matter how long you date. That lasting relationship can be built in days, some in weeks and others take years.

We’re not talking about getting married in the next several months, but I wonder how long we should date before we become engaged.

Posted in: Affection • Dating • Divorced • Engaged • Lovers • Marry • Trust | 1 Comment »

Nothing but a SOB

May 6th, 2009, 11:14 pm by Tara

kitten1 As a single new Valley resident, it is hard meet people. I’ve met some very nice girls but where are the good guys. My girlfriends and I never seem to find any.

We go to popular hangouts throughout the Valley. It’s always the same people at each club. And when you meet a new guy you never know if he’s married or not.

I met this guy who is cute, hot and romantic. We went out for a month and everything was great. I thought I had finally found a nice single guy in the Valley.

As our relationship became very intimate, he told me he was legally married but getting a divorce and was living with his brother. Now, I find out that he’s still living with his “soon-to-be ex-wife” and that she’s pregnant.

Saturday we went out to dinner at the Island and after asking a couple of things, he finally admitted to everything. He said he didn’t tell me everything before because he didn’t want to lose me.

Hell..lose me…why the hell would I want to be with him? I grabbed my wine glass and the dozen of red roses and threw them right at his face. I walked away and never looked back. What I thought was a nice guy was nothing more than a lying deceitful SOB.

Posted in: Affair • Cheating • Dating • Ex wife • Hot • Infidelity • Island • Pregnant • Romantic • SOB • married man | 2 Comments »

Brother…I’m Gay

April 27th, 2009, 8:50 pm by Tara

question6 Two months ago, my brother told me he’s gay. I am stunned. He always hung with a bunch of guys but had a number of girlfriends in the past. His relationships lasted for months and sometimes a year. I never thought my brother was anything but heterosexual.

Last week I met his “friend” and it made me sick. It was very hard for me to be around them. I still love my brother but I feel a great loss. I don’t think I’ll ever support or accept his new lifestyle. Our parents would be devastated if they knew. They have strong religious beliefs and strongly oppose gay and bisexual relationships.

I’m married with several kids. My wife opposes gay relationships but she says I need to accept my brother’s wishes and maintain the same a relationship with him. I feel like I’ve lost the one sibling I have. We were always very close, hung out a lot and confided with each other…just like brothers do. I can’t do that anymore.

We’ll be visiting our parents for Mother’s Day and my brother wants to bring his gay friend. No way in hell should he bring him and ruin Mom’s special day.

If he wants to live like that…that’s his life. I think he should keep it private. Why destroy my parents lives? They’re elderly, love their children and grandchildren, so what’s the point of telling them or bringing his “friend” to family gatherings? He needs to stay away.

Posted in: Dating • Gay Brother • Gay relationship • Mother's Day • Romance • trysts | 2 Comments »

Pranksters Revealed

April 1st, 2009, 1:27 pm by Tara

Love Bytes asked all of you pranksters to submit some April Fools Day pranks, gags and jokes. And did you ever! Following are some of the responses.

Fake Ring

My boyfriend took me to an Irish club on April Fools Day. We closed the place down. When he took me home he was rather nervous and excited. He pulled out a box and asked me to open it. It was a ring! He then asked me if I would marry him. I was so surprised! I immediately said “yes, of course.: After he left, I called my mom, my sisters and my best friends. I was so excited.

The next morning we met for a late breakfast. I told him I had called my family and friends to give the good news and he immediately became very quiet and uneasy. He then told me that his friends bet him $100 he wouldn’t pull an April Fools prank on me. The ring was fake and the proposal..well it wasn’t for real. I was livid…felt like the biggest fool in the world. I got my purse, stormed out of the restaurant and told him where to go. For weeks after, he would text me, leave messages on my phone and post comments on myspace. He was begging me to accept his apology. I finally took my friends advice and called him. That was 6 years ago…and today we are happily married with a beautiful baby. Humor continues to be a big part of our relationship…it keeps the sparkle in our lives. — Christina

Fishing Date?

I took my girlfriend to the Island for April Fools Day. I told her we were going to spend the evening fishing on the bay. She hated to fish so she whined a lot, saying she would rather do something else. When we arrived on the Island she wanted to go home. I blindfolded her and told her I had a secret fishing spot just for her. All she did was complain. Before long we were at our destination. When she opened her eyes she could not believe it as people shouted April Fools Day. We were on a chartered boat with 12 of our best friends celebrating her 30th birthday. She was speechless. Since then she has never complained about going fishing and every year on her birthday we try to go on the charter boat. April Fools Day is a day we will never forget…an evening filled with laughter, fun and romance. — Tony

Stolen Car

On New Years Day I decided to pull a joke on my boyfriend. He was in Dallas visiting family and I was home. When he called I told him I had received a ticket for DWI on New Years Eve. That an officer pulled me over, made me take the breathalizer test and then gave me a ticket. I even had my sister collaborate on the joke. When he came home, the joke continued. Two weeks later I received a call from an attorney friend that my boyfriend had contacted. It was then that I had to confess that it was all a joke.

Well he was furious. “Wait till April Fools Day” he kept saying. Well he sure pulled a good one. He came to my office and moved my car in another associates parking place. He then asked my fellow associate to go to lunch with me. When we left for lunch I noticed my car was missing. I immediately went inside the office and said “my car has been ripped off.” Various associates began calling the police department, U.S. & Mexico bridges, etc….alerts were everywhere. Nobody wanted my car to cross into Mexico. After 10 minutes, my lunch partner looked at me and said “isn’t revenge sweet.” I was pissed. How could I be so gullible…that same morning my boyfriend told me I better watch out. I was definitely the fool. And you know he even went to the police department the day before to let them know if they received a call about the missing car…it was just a joke.

We’ve now been married for more than 1o years, and to this day we still laugh about the prank. — Jennifer

Posted in: April Fools Day • Dating • Flirting • Gags • Liar • Party • Pranks • Romance • Tricks • Wild | Post a Comment »

Subtly Seducing a Guy

March 3rd, 2009, 9:08 pm by Tara

Grabbing your guy’s butt will catch his attention, but many times it’s the subtly suggestive moves that really drive him weak in the knees. Try one or all of these seductive ways to raise his interest and keep him insanely wanting only you.

Wear a necklace just above your cleavage. He can’t help but look!
Run your fingers up and down his back. Spell out dirty deeds you’ll do later.
Send him a text telling him about the sexy dream you had.
Teasingly brush your body against his back when in a crowd.
Caress his hips and tell him his pants feel as good as they look.
Bare your midriff when reaching up.
Wear stilettos and dangle those sexy heels.
Playfully teach him some naughty words or phrases in a foreign language.
Wear a backless blouse.
Let your spaghetti strap slide off your shoulder and slowly pull it back up. Let him pull it up!
Use sexual undertone words like sexy, hot and luscious.
Play footsie under the table.

Posted in: Dating • Flirting • Lust • Naughty • Romance • Romantic • Seduction • Sexy • Subtle moves | Post a Comment »

Girlfriend admits to Sexting

February 18th, 2009, 9:07 pm by Tara

My best friend admitted that she is Sexting. Honestly, I didn’t know what the heck she was talking about. (Bet UR wondering too? Sexting is a word that has been coined to describe the practice of sending sexually provocative text or pics via cell phones.) Yes that’s right.

My friend was over my apartment a couple of weeks ago and flipped out her iPhone. OMG! She is taking nude pics of herself and sending them on her cell phone. I can not believe what I saw! She says she’s tired of the clubs (never meets any decent guys) and wants to experience a new way to “date or hook up” with guys.

My gf and I have known each other since 3rd grade. Her behavior is causing a big rift in our friendship. She says I need to lay off and let her live her life to the fullest. That it’s no big deal what she’s doing.

As she stormed out of my place last night, she stated, “at least I’m getting dates…you’re always alone.” That pissed me off. I’d rather be alone than sending raunchy messages and pics to people that I barely know. And what about possible serious negative consequences? I can’t believe her “new life” is breaking up our 20+ year friendship. What should I do?

Sexting is a relatively new trend in flirting. It’s the act of sending nude or semi-nude photographs via cell-phone text messaging — and it’s sweeping the nation. These virtual relationships can leave to other “activities.” And it’s not just adults, teens are doing it too.

Your gf seems to believe that sexting is exciting and fun. She’s able to virtually fool around without facing the consequences of an actual affair.

I understand where ur coming from. Your gf is living for the moment. Her compromising images could turn up when a college or a potential employer conducts a routine background check online. OMG…just imagine what they would see? And what legal issues may arise if her sexting lands in the hands of a minor?

Your bf is of legal-age and there isn’t much that you can do about her behavior but she should be really careful. BF are always there for each other. You may have to just ride out the storm.

Posted in: Dating • Flirting • Lust • Naughty • Passionate • Pics • Romance • Sexting • Sexy • Text Message • texting • Add new tag | Post a Comment »

Boyfriend Jealous over Guy

February 4th, 2009, 9:00 pm by Tara

My girlfriend and I go to UT-Brownsville and we’ve been dating for 6 months. Brinny has a “best friend” who is male. She always talks about him and text him almost everyday. She tells me that they loved each other (before she met me) but never became lovers cuz he’s separated from his wife. Now she says they’re only “friends.” I don’t know if I believe her. I got pissed last night and told her to stop talking with him. She says it’s not fair since she’s known him longer than me, and that she loves me as a lover…not him. Am i right to get jealous with this guy? Am i not trusting her? Am i wrong to ask her to stop chatting with him? - DJ

I would be jealous too! Maybe Brinny wants you to be jealous. This may be her way to show her that you care and love her. It’s hard to say. Whether she’s just playing a jealous game with you or not, the problem is their friendship is longer than the time you’ve been hanging with her. If they are only friends then she should introduce you to him.

At this point, I would try to brush it off, and act as if it doesn’t bother you. If you really think it’s a jealous ploy, I wouldn’t play her game. You’ll have no problem finding other ladies on or off campus.

Love Bytes viewers…what do you think? Is Brinny playing a game? Should David keep hanging with her or dump her? David is looking for advice. Post your comments now - click “Post a Comment”

Posted in: Dating • Infidelity • Jealous • Liar • Love • Other guy • Text Message • Trust | Post a Comment »

Surefire kissing techniques

December 18th, 2008, 9:10 pm by Tara

According to the Albright College Study, 59% of males said that they would not pursue a relationship with a woman if their first kiss was not pleasurable. If you feel there is great chemistry, work these surefire smooching techniques offered by Denise Hughes, author of Dateworthy.

1. Run your fingers through his hair and stroke the back of his head. It makes the kiss sexy and exciting while still being casual.

2. To help you relax and be in the moment, close your eyes and touch your forehead to his, matching his breathing.

3. At the end of the kiss, gently bite his lower lip for a fraction of a second. This sends the message that you want more of him.

4. Kissing your guy on the right side of his body makes a difference says Daniel Amen M.D. The left hemisphere of the brain, which is responsible for positive feelings, controls the right side of the body. He’ll process your presence in the optimistic part of his mind and experience greater pleasure.

Give any or all of these techniques a try. Then leave a Love Bytes comment on your results. Have other techniques? Share them on this blog.

Posted in: Affection • Dating • Kissing • Passtionate Kisses | Post a Comment »

Holiday break up

December 16th, 2008, 10:19 am by Tara

I’ve been dating this girl but now I want to break up cause I think she’s psycho. Should I break up with her now or wait till after the holidays? I don’t want to ruin her Christmas but I don’t want to be with her anymore. What should I do?

Breaking up during the holidays can be difficult and somewhat heartless. Why go through the holiday pretending you care and leading her on? No need to wait…do it now. The sooner you break up the sooner you’ll be happier.

Posted in: Affection • Breaking up • Dating • Holidays • Losing interest • confused | Post a Comment »

Too clingy or what?

December 9th, 2008, 2:36 pm by Tara

When you text your boyfriend ‘I Love You,” and he text back “Cool,” how are you suppose to feel? Does this mean I’m being too clingy or does this mean that he does not show affection enough?

Clingy no. It’s a loving move on your part. Some guys have a hard time expressing their love to their lady. Maybe your guy thinks it’s too mushy for him to respond with a like message. Maybe he had friends or co-workers around him. He may not be the type of person that displays affection in public. Maybe he didn’t want to be teased or ridiculed by his friends. Does he show affection in other ways? If so, move on…don’t sweat the small stuff.

Posted in: Affection • Dating • Romantic • confused • what to do | Post a Comment »