I found out my fiance has 2 cell phones, one that I know about and a “secret” one. A phone rang while he was sleeping at my house but it had a different ring tone.  I answered the call and immediately a girl hung up. I called the number back and got her voice mail. I called again, voice mail again. Then she sent a text asking who he was with? I was angry. I looked at his calls and texts and hell, he’s been using adult text services to text  women, telling them what he’d do to them sexually.

I woke him up and confronted him. He said he was lonely and bored one night when I was out of town so he thought he would have some meaningless fun. I became loud and angry! Now I find out from a mutual friend that he had also posted on adult dating sites.

I thought we had been getting along real well, engaged to be married, and  our sex life was great. He always said he was happy with me and couldn’t wait till we were married.

We’ve been separated for 2 months now. He’s begging me to go back with him saying he won’t do it again.  Why do I want to trust him? How can I be sure he won’t do it again?

Why do I still love him? Am I just a fool? What would make you think he really was going to change and be a faithful husband?