Two months ago, my brother told me he’s gay. I am stunned. He always hung with a bunch of guys but had a number of girlfriends in the past. His relationships lasted for months and sometimes a year. I never thought my brother was anything but heterosexual.

Last week I met his “friend” and it made me sick. It was very hard for me to be around them. I still love my brother but I feel a great loss. I don’t think I’ll ever support or accept his new lifestyle. Our parents would be devastated if they knew. They have strong religious beliefs and strongly oppose gay and bisexual relationships.

I’m married with several kids. My wife opposes gay relationships but she says I need to accept my brother’s wishes and maintain the same a relationship with him. I feel like I’ve lost the one sibling I have. We were always very close, hung out a lot and confided with each other…just like brothers do. I can’t do that anymore.

We’ll be visiting our parents for Mother’s Day and my brother wants to bring his gay friend. No way in hell should he bring him and ruin Mom’s special day.

If he wants to live like that…that’s his life.  I think he should keep it private. Why destroy my parents lives? They’re elderly, love their children and grandchildren, so what’s the point of telling them or bringing his “friend” to family gatherings? He needs to stay away.