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Affair Breaks Up Marriages

November 8th, 2009, 7:39 am by Tara

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mila-avatarMy brother-in-law had an affair with a married woman. They cheated on their spouses for more than 6 months. In the beginning they thought it was fun and highly sexual. He was mesmerized in his fantasies while she wanted an unattached sexual relationship. Neither one thought the affair would impact their marriage or kids. When their spouses found out, they both filed for divorce.

Trust is the foundation of successful relationships. Many affair relationships fail because it’s difficult to trust someone who has started the relationship by being unfaithful and deceitful. They betrayed their vows, spouses and kids. Most likely they will do the same thing to each other. When the initial blissful stage subsides and the stresses of real everyday life kicks in, things can be different and much less secure.

Today the “lovers” are still together and my ex-brother-in-law says that he never imagined that it would end this way. What a scum bag…Get real Jack. The more I think about it they deserve each other.  If one cheats on their spouse, they have no values or ideals. If he or she cheated once, you know one or both will cheat again.

Boyfriend pays no bills

July 24th, 2009, 7:16 am by Tara

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My boyfriend and I have been living together for a year, dating for 3 years. We both are divorced with children, have full time jobs and make good money. Problem is he’s always broke! He’s financially dependent on me, I pay all the bills, food, gas, etc. I own my own home so we don’t rent. Since I have a newer car, we always use mine.

Most of his money goes to his children. He pays child support like all divorced dads should do. Any time his ex calls she asks for more money and he always gives in to her. So he’s always broke or has little money to help pay our bills. I want to spend and do more with my kids, but my money is tight.

He’s a great boyfriend in every other way and I love him very much. But, I’m getting tired of paying for everything. By the time I pay all the bills, I’m basically broke each month.

Every time I talk to him about it he gets defensive, says he feels bad but he has to take care of his  kids. I suggested he get a second job but he says he can’t because it would take time away from his kids.

I’m feeling desperate and frustrated. Is it wrong for me to feel this way? He’s the sweetest and most loving boyfriend. But fair is fair. My friends and family say I should kick his butt out.  I want to marry him one day but I wonder if he will assume and share financial responsibilites. Is love worth all the financial problems?

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